You need to get consent and give consent to have sex
You need to get consent and give consent to have sex.
You can only have sex with someone who consents to having sex.
Consenting to sex means agreeing or saying yes to having sex.
You need consent for any kind of sexual touching.
- touching your partner’s private body parts
You need consent for all kinds of sex.
- oral sex
- penis in vagina sex
- anal sex
Ask your partner if they want to have sex, before you start having sex.
Only have sex with your partner if they consent and tell you they want to have sex.
You must respect your partner’s choice to say no.
If they do not give consent, do not pressure them to change their mind.
Do not try to have sex with them.
Your partner must get your consent before sex too.
They should ask you if you want to have sex.
You can tell your partner no.
Your partner must not pressure you to change your mind, or try to have sex with you if you do not consent.
Having sex with someone who has not consented is called rape or sexual assault.
It is against the law.
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Tell the police or someone you trust if someone tries to have sex with you when you did not consent.
If you are in danger or need urgent medical attention, call 999.
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The law says people should be 16 or older before they have sex
The law says people should be 16 years old, or older, before they have sex.
The law says this because deciding to have sex is a big decision.
We need to know what sex is.
There are risks we have to think about. We need to know how to keep ourselves safe.
People who are younger than 16 might find it hard to make the decision to have sex, and keep themselves safe.
There are risks to our health when we have sex.
We could get, or pass on, sexual infections.
People who are younger than 16 might not know how to keep safe and healthy.
Pregnancy can happen because of sex.
Being pregnant and being a parent is a big decision.
It is very hard to be a parent.
It is best to wait until you are 16 or older to have sex.
You do not have to have sex when you turn 16 years old.
You can choose to wait longer if you like.
Only have sex when you feel ready.
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There are some people you are not allowed to have sex with
It is against the law for sex to happen between some people.
These laws are to keep you and others safe.
It is against the law to have sex with your family.
This could mean your:
- mum or dad
- brother or sister
- aunt or uncle
- foster carers
It is against the law to have sex with a child. This is anybody aged 12 or younger.
This law is to keep children safe.
It is against the law to have sex with someone who takes care of you as their job.
This could be a:
- support worker or carer
It is against the law to have sex with any of your teachers or workers in your school.
It is against the law to have sex with someone who works at any clubs or groups you go to, like sports clubs or youth groups.
Tell a person you trust if any of these people have had sex with you, or tried to have sex with you.
This could be a:
- doctor or nurse
- police officer
- support worker
- parent or carer